Many of us spend most of our lives seeking outside sources to make us feel good about ourselves. This may include parents, authority figures, partners, skills and talents, academic achievement, religious affiliation; and the list goes on and on.
Then, there are the lucky few whose sense of self neither expands with outside affirmation nor wanes with perceived criticism or failure. They seem happy being who they are, despite what others think of them. So, how do we all get here?
Here is something each of us can remind ourselves:
I came alone into this world and will go alone, then why do I not trust my own self during this journey? Everything outside me is only an aid, a companion. Let me HOLD MYSELF UP every moment of every day, knowing that NO ONE ELSE CAN TAKE MY PLACE IN THE UNIVERSE. I do not need to be anything else or anyone else, because I came here complete. All I need to do is to love MY SELF, because when I remember to do that, everyone around me MAGICALLY feels loved!
Sujata V, Ph.D, MFT
Always Learning..through the good AND not-so-good times!